What's with all of these celebrities dying? We have lost several in just a week or so. The most high profile is, of course, Michael Jackson. It is really so sad how sick he was mentally and physically. He was a talent who had a death wish. All that money and fame and eventual death.
What strikes me, though, are some of the comments that accuse me of racism and the e-mails I have been getting since his death. I take the position that where there is smoke there is fire, and MJ took advantage of young boys. This is not a blog to defend myself, but more to point out that people still use the race card. Why? Can't a white guy have an opinion about a black guy and not be called a racist?
On my radio show, we go after the likes of Da Mayor, Jody Weis, and many other white guys. Just last week we had a debate about a copper who beat the tar out of a bartender but received no jail time. He is a white guy too. I tore into him pretty good.
But as soon as MJ is mentioned, the race card comes out from under the deck: "Take off your white sheet." "I am sure you don't care about the guy because he is black."
These are the funny, entertaining, and ignorant comments I am receiving. Guess who makes those comments? Is this payback for previous years of racism? Why can't we just give an opinion and take a stand whether someone is white, black, Asian, purple, orange, etc? I know the race debate has been beaten a million times, but I am still amazed that people actually still play that card. Those are the ones who are the racists, in my opinion.
"The king is dead. I can't believe it!" "I am so sad." "I am flabbergasted."
These are some of the comments I have read on Facebook today. Let me go on record by saying goodbye and good riddance to Michael Jackson. Not because he was nuts or changed his skin color. Not because I didn't like his music. At one time. I loved his music.
He was a CHILD MOLESTER, remember kids? He lit a kidís hair on fire. Gave children a "kiddie cocktail" to put them to sleep and then raped them. He had underage boys sleeping in his bed.
I don't wish bad on anyone, but the public is feeling bad for this guy? What about our troops? We crap on them after they come home from the war. What about the maniacs who run Iran and North Korea? Are you worried about your safety or your county? NO, you are worried about a CHILD MOLESTER.
Why don't you go out and spend the money on some of his music? You don't have to make his estate richer. How quickly we forget. He is a low life that took advantage of the underage population. Who is their voice? Only in California, the great state that acquitted Robert Blake and OJ, could this animal have gotten off. I don't know how they convicted Scott Peterson. I guess there is an exception to every rule.
We in this country put celebrities on a pedestal. They are not heroes, they are entertainers who entertain. The real heroes are our troops. And firemen, policemen, and teachers are taken for granted too.
On top of it all, Michael Jackson blew every penny on nonsense and is not to be admired for his overspending or luxurious lifestyle. You idolize this guy. You put him up to the stars. He is not a star. He is a CHILD MOLESTER that should be buried and forgotten about. That of course won't happen because of the stupid celebrity-worshipping society we have become.
North Korea must be loving this. We take our eye off the ball for this jerkoff while they plan for all of us to land up in Michael Jacksonland: DEAD!!
So am I being cold-hearted? Insensitive? Not showing "The King" respect? Or do you agree? Let me know.
Lately I have come across some NON-professional behavior. To me, there is the Pinker Way and the wrong way. Allow me to point out the difference.
Let's take my wife, for example. She is a realtor that helps people buy or sell a house, which in most cases is their single largest asset. Let's say her client put an offer on a piece of property. As most of us know, this is a very emotional experience. She would get a hold of the other agent and ask that they get back to her by the end of the day so that she could report to her client, who is on pins and needles. It cracks me up when the other side doesn't follow through and communicate what is happening. In many cases, people are busy or out of touch.
Communicate that. Be professional. Even if you have nothing to report, report nothing. But the excuse is always something like, "I couldn't get a hold of the person because they are out of town."
You must realize that your conduct matters, always. We are all busy, but you need to communicate and be a pro. How many times have you been left hanging by a boss or a client? If you say, "I will let you know by Thursday," then let the person know something by Thursday, even if you're just letting them know that you may need more time for whatever reason. Be a pro, not a lazy human being. It costs nothing. Believe me when I tell you that people are constantly being judged on how they act, look, and dress.
There is a certain aura you carry around. Make it a professional one.
Have any stories to share about dealing with unprofessional people? Let me know.
This past Friday night I went to a cigar party called The Little Smoke. It started about four years ago with about fifteen guys. The gentleman who hosted the party is a listener and invited me to the event last October. He holds the event twice a year at his home. Itís in May or June in the summer and October in the fall.
Last October I was able to hook the "boys" up with two cigar sponsors: Tesa Cigars and Los Blancos Cigars. We had an amazing time. This year, the same two cigar vendors came and we added International House of Wine and Cheese to the event. They have a beautiful wine-cheese store and restaurant in Richmond, Illinois. We also added a couple of charities to the event.
Pizza4Patriots: This charity was started by Master Sergeant Mark Evans, who is raising money to send pizzas to our soldiers over in Iraq for the Fourth of July. DHL has donated a 747 and we are going to fill the whole plane up with pizzas for the troops. Our other charity was Mullenfoods.com. Mullen Foods is a company started by a disabled Chicago police veteran, Jim Mullen, who was shot in the face in 1995 and now lives in a wheelchair. He has come out with a recipe for delicious applesauce.
What a glorious night it was, and the weather was perfect. This is how life should be lived. Friends, food, cigars, and great music. Joey Privea, who does Sinatra and Dean Martin, was awesome. The nice thing is that each guy threw in a few bucks, had a blast, and we raised close to $2000 that will be spread amongst the charities. We even had a couple of the Evanston PD coppers come by to say hello and they took up a collection for $185. How cool is that? They are listeners who were on duty. Their commander let them stop by and they stayed for a while. This party was karma working its magic: giving, living, enjoying a beautiful night with friends.
We are going through some tough times right now, no doubt about it. Think about getting together and re-connecting with people, not "STUFF", in these times. A correction might be a good thing to make us wake up. Have a party, have everyone bring something, and think about a charity to help out. You will have a blast with your friends and when the night is over, you'll have some money to give back to someone. It takes a little time and effort, but itís well worth it.
So are you going to have a party for charity? Let me know.
Sorry I haven't been as attentive to writing my blog as I should be. No excuses. I am super busy but we all are, so no excuses here.
"Sorry" - that word is a thing of the past in my opinion. Why is it so tough for someone to admit they were wrong? We all make mistakes, but most of us like to blame it on the other "guy". It feels better to be above the line and admit you were wrong.
Think about this for a minute or two. If you are a boss or a parent (who's also the boss), do you realize how powerful it is to admit you screwed up? In the case of a boss, the employee realizes you are also a human being and you can relate. As a parent, you teach your child that even though it's natural to put you on a pedestal, the fact remains you are human.
Our egos today are enormous. It's "This guy did this" and "She did that" or "I would have done...." If you say you're sorry to someone, the onus is on them. If they don't forgive you, it's now THEIR problem because you had the courage. If they want to hold a grudge against you, there is nothing you can do about it.
Being the bigger man or woman does take some courage, but in the end it's not only the right thing to do, but it's the smart thing to do. The only trap is you have to mean it or people can pick up on it. Falling back on it as an excuse for bad behavior won't cut it. When you really screw up, mean it, own it, and you'll feel much better.
Memorial Day is coming up in a few days, and I think it would be nice to honor our past soldiers who passed on our behalf instead of thinking of the holiday as just a day off. All I hear people talking about is if the weather will be good. How many rainy cold damp nights did our guys spend in the field working to keep our freedom? What you need to do is to honor them by helping out the ones who are alive.
There is this wonderful charity called Pizza4Patriots that an ex-sergeant by the name of Mark Evans started. He and his son were eating pizza one day and thought about sending some deep dish pizza overseas to our troops. They hatched Pizza 4 Patriots.
On July 4th, a DHL 747 will be taking a WHOLE plane full of pizza and beer over to Iraq and Afghanistan. How cool is that? You can help by donating 10 bucks for our soldiers who are alive to show some appreciation by going to www.pizza4patriots.com.
I guarantee that if you donated some "dough" each and every time, you would be locked into thinking about the brave men and women who fought for us and who fight for us now. There is too much lip service going on about how much we appreciate them.
Put your money where your mouth is and give 10 bucks to Pizza4Patriots. If the weather sucks, stay in, grab a pizza, and enjoy. Have a great holiday.
I had Stuart Jacobson, who is a humorist and entertainer, on my radio program last night. He was explaining the events he emcees. One night he could be doing a charity dinner, the next night he could be doing a fetish festival or a swingers party. My mouth dropped wide like I was catching flies when he told us about these parties. With all due respect, people today are nuts. They look for crazy ways to get that next buzz or excitement in their life. I am not naive by any stretch of the imagination, but he was telling me nurses, teachers, doctors, and many profesionals attend these events.
Doing this overnight radio show is a kick. I meet people and get to discuss overnight topics that are edgy and out of line of everyday life. I always thought I was a little off center because of my take on life. After I had this guy on, I feel like Mr. Milk Toast. He was even telling us about a website that you can go to if you're bored and get hooked up. They have close to Four MILLION subscribers. From his experience the more educated you are, the more likely you are to visit one of these festivals. He even said the WOMEN suggest these more than the men! You know the old saying, "It's a man's world and the women run it. Amen to that.
I am still happy to come home and get a nice meal, pet the doggies, and be bored. One of my e-mails to me was about my lack of education because I mis-pronunced a word. I will take being uneducated and being undersestimated any day of the week. Boredom for the Pinker is a beautiful thing. It keeps me out of trouble and festivals I should not be attending any way. If you concentrate on what you have and try to make it better you don't need this crazy crap. I don't get it!!!
Have you done anything crazy to beat boredom? Contact me to tell me about it.
I haven't blogged in a couple of weeks. So sorry for that. I know my regular readers look for that breath of fresh air each and every week. I have been very busy like all of you out there. My producer quit last week and it's been very hectic getting a new one. There is an old saying that good help is hard to find. There is more to that. Good help is understanding what you want and need.
When looking to hire someone, I have realized that I need to ask more questions than I normally do. The job market is a desperate one and people will "sell" you on themselves if you let them. It's not about like, but more about respect. I've realized now that I am not going to worry if my producer likes me or not. No, I won't mistreat him, but it's about respecting the person's talent and getting each other to jive in the work environment. Especially when it's just the two of you against the world. Otherwise, it won't work.
Of course we all want people to like us, but at the end of the day you have to respect each other in the workplace. If you don't have that, you've got no foundation to grow on. If you're searching for a job, it's a whole lot easier believing in the company/product, ie, our radio station is a news talk station. If you're looking for fun all of the time, you've come to the wrong place.
My show is the least serious of all of our hosts, but it's not a party all of the time. Our listeners like to have fun, but they listen because most of them are conservative and the issues are compelling to them. So whether people work in radio or another business, it's important to try to match up some of your personal feelings to the company. Just don't take the job as a stepping stone or because you are desperate. At the end of it all, you'll be on the street looking again because your work will show for itself.
If you're an employer, ask a ton of questions. The more you listen, the more you know. Pay attention to body language. It's very telling.
Contact me to let me know what you think, or just to say "hello".
I had the pleasure of attending a very special event this past Saturday night. My new best friend David Flood, who is one of the owners of the Chicago Slaughter indoor football team, invited my bride and myself to a fundraiser for FRC. FRC stands for a Family Resource Center that provides services for domestic and overseas adoption.
I never had to think about adopting children. I have two very healthy pains (just kidding kids). When you are not exposed to something in your world and then you become educated about it, it can really open up your eyes. I have never seen so many happy parents in one room at one time. They are spending money in these tough economic times for a near and dear cause. I am sure most of these parents tried to have kids on their own. To me, these adopting parents have a special place in heaven. They are literally taking a young, strange baby into their home and giving the child a family and a home through love and devotion. The appreciation that they have for the opportunity to adopt is quite amazing. It is very costly and one must go through a whole lengthy process.
It seems like it's all worth it to me. Many of us take what we have and our family for granted. We had kids when we wanted them and the rest is history. We have never felt the pain of this wonderful moment or had our dreams dashed because for one reason or another we couldn't have kids. The children, in my opinion, benefit the most. These parents offer a solid foundation on which to raise these kids.
It's really a beautiful thing to witness some joy in these troubling times. A few of the adopted kids who were there were young adults smiling, dancing, and loving life. In different circumstances, that may not be the case. My hat's off to these adopting parents. You are true heroes to American society. Thank you.
I had James Mullen on my show the other night/morning. He is the Chicago disabled police officer who took a bullet in the face in 1996. This man has been through sheer hell and torture. He has had four heart attacks, lives in a wheelchair, and can't go outside in the cold because his body is now cold-blooded because of the shooting.
He was on the show to promote his new applesauce, which is close to his heart. It is his mom's recipe. I bring this to your attention not to feel sorry for him but to learn from the example he is setting. There are no words to describe his attitude. He is more than positive and grateful for his life. He has a wonderful wife who is a detective in the Chicago police department. He has a 12 year old daughter who was only three months old when he was shot. He is truly happy.
Here is the $64,000 question: if he is happy upbeat and positive, what the hell is wrong with many of you who go around with the glass half empty? Most of you can drive and use your limbs to do all of the things we take for granted. Man-up, folks. This recession will make all of us stronger or it will kill you. In most cases, you'll be better off for it.
In the meantime, go to Mullenfoods.com and buy some apple sauce. It's good for you and you'll be helping a true hero out. We all clap at sports events and have great lip service for our heroes, but at the end of the day we do nothing for them most of the time. I thank you and Jim Mullen does as well.
It's nice to see family working together. Last Saturday night, I had the pleasure to emcee an event at Fitzgerald's in Berwyn. It's a classic bar that has been there for years.
I, of course, had my entourage with me: my sports guy, Dan Levy, was there to mooch my beers (LOL). Bonnie, my producer from the Chicago Overnight show, stopped by. My wife, Angel, who can't let me out of her sight was on hand, along with George Bliss, who helps me on my program, and Garry Meier, who is a Chicago radio legend (and just landed a gig at WGN).
The opening act was a group called Lobster Newburg--an unusual name, but nonetheless a great band. It features Colin Peterik, who is Jim Peterik's son. The group is fresh and exciting and had the whole crowd going. There was no bad economy gloom and doom in the air. Music is great therapy for the soul. The band played for 45 minutes and the crowd had a great time.
Jim Peterik may not be a household name, but you all know him. He started the band the Ides Of March over 40 years ago: "I'm your vehicle baby, I'll take you anywhere you want to go." He also wrote the "Eye Of The Tiger" song for Rocky III. He has a new band called Lifeforce that puts a jazz spin on all of his old music. He wrote new music as well and jammed for close to an hour and a half. His new song "Joy" is in the top 10 on the Jazz charts.
It was so cool to see father and son admire each other and really kick some ass on the stage. All of the guys in both bands were very cool. I have such admiration for musicians. I have no idea how they do it. True passion is a cool thing to witness.
Do you listen to my overnight show? Tell me what you think about it.
News flash! The Olympics are coming to Chicago. Why are people even thinking otherwise? We have the Bagman aka Da Mayor, Doprah, Oblah Bla and Michael Jordan. It's a dog and pony show on the road just to make us look good. This is what politics is all about. Bullsh-t. We have meetings, cocktail parties, and speeches all to make the politicians look good.
The Bagman is the most corrupt, powerful mayor in the country. Our Prez has come out of our political machine. This happens to be a great city, so the sell is very easy. I could care less if we have the Olympics. I think the cost will kill the city financially but Da Mayor will figure out how to screw the residents and businesses to make up the money. Maybe he will send the porch crews through the city and ticket everyone who has a piece of wood out of place, which he did after a porch collapsed a few years ago. Believe me, he will think of something--he always does.
The ego of Da Mayor plus his connnections to the White House assures us that we'll get the Olympics. It's seven years away, but with the political machine that keeps working, this will guarantee that Da Mayor keeps his office for as many years as he wants to be there. I have to give him credit for one thing: he stays ahead of everyone and his daddy taught him well.
Do you want the Olympics here? Tell me what you think.
Comparison is a horrible habit to have. Let me give you a few examples. If you have kids, it's tempting to compare the negative behavior to the positive one, ie, you have two kids, one is an athlete, the other is not.
When a parent compares the two kids, it is very rare that the parent goes to the stronger athlete and advises them to help the weaker sibling. It usually goes like this: "How come you can't play baseball like your brother?"
Or someone might talk about their work situation: "My last boss was wonderful, my current boss does such and such."
How about comparing YOURSELF with others? Do you see a pattern that you always compare yourself to others who you think have a better life? Think about it. When you compare, you are not grateful, you are jealous or whiney to yourself: "I am going to do my spring break in Florida. My friends are going to Mexico. I am getting the wrong end of the stick. That's not fair."
So I say to someone who complains like that: hey dummy, you get to go away. Are you catching my drift? Don't compare yourself, your children, or anything you have because you will always be on the bottom or put the person you are talking to on the bottom.
By the way, if you don't like the situation, shut up and change it. You made the choice to do whatever you did and you are comparing because of the choices you made.
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